Mad at Myself
Psalm 32:1-5 NLT “Oh, what joy for those whose disobedience is forgiven, whose sin is put out of sight! 2 Yes, what joy for those whose record the Lord has cleared of guilt, whose lives are lived in complete honesty! 3 When I refused to confess my sin, my body wasted away, and I groaned all day long. 4 Day and night your hand of discipline was heavy on me. My strength evaporated like water in the summer heat. Interlude 5 Finally, I confessed all my sins to you
and stopped trying to hide my guilt. I said to myself, “I will confess my rebellion to the Lord.”
And you forgave me! All my guilt is gone.”
4 typical reactions toward guilt.
verse 5 “I was trying to hide my guilt”
2 problems with trying to disguise our guilt.
a. God still sees
b. No matter how deep you bury it, it always seems to resurface
Luke 8:17 “for there is nether that is hidden that will not be disclosed”
Rationalize = rational lies
Verse 3-4 When I refused to confess my sin, my body wasted away, and I groaned all day long. 4 Day and night your hand of discipline was heavy on me. My strength evaporated like water in the summer heat.”
Psalm 38-1-4 “Lord, do not rebuke me in your anger or discipline me in your wrath.
Your arrows have pierced me, and your hand has come down on me. Because of your wrath there is no health in my body; there is no soundness in my bones because of my sin. My guilt has overwhelmed me like a burden too heavy to bear.”
“Commit a sin twice and its not longer a sin.” Chinese Proverb
1 Timothy 4:2 “their consciences became seared as with a hot iron…”
So what do we do with our guilt? 3 things from this passage.
- Admit it
verse 5 “finally I confessed all my sin to you and stopped trying to hide it.”
Proverbs 28:13 NCV “If you hide your sins you will not succeed. If you confess and reject them you will receive mercy. “
2. Ask God to forgive it.
I John 1:9 “If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness.”
Romans 3:23-24 “For all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God, 24 and all are justified freely by his grace through the redemption that came by Christ Jesus.
Romans 10:9-10 “If you declare with your mouth, “Jesus is Lord,” and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved. 10 For it is with your heart that you believe and are justified, and it is with your mouth that you profess your faith and are saved.
Your forgiveness is not based on what you do, but on what He has already done.
3. Accept it and move on
Romans 8:1 “Therefore, there is now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus…”
John 3:17 “For God did not send his Son into the world to condemn the world, but to save the world through him.”
Isaiah 1:18 “Come now, let us settle the matter,” says the Lord. “Though your sins are like scarlet, they shall be as white as snow; though they are red as crimson, they shall be like wool.”
Justified = just as if you never sinned.
4 reasons we might find ourselves mad at God.
1. Wrong teaching
Jeremiah 29:11 “For I know the plans I have for you declares the Lord, plans to prosper and not to harm you, plans to give you a hope and future.”
John 16:33 “In this world you will have trouble. But take heart! I have overcome the world.”
Romans 8:28 “And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose.”
Romans 8:35-37 “Does it mean he no longer loves us if we have trouble or calamity, or are persecuted, or hungry, or destitute, or in danger, or threatened with death?… 37 No, despite all these things, overwhelming victory is ours through Christ, who loved us.
2. Wrong thinking
I Peter 1:16 “For the Scriptures say, “You must be holy because I am holy.”
James 1:2-4 “Consider it pure joy, my brothers and sisters, whenever you face trials of many kinds, 3 because you know that the testing of your faith produces perseverance. 4 Let perseverance finish its work so that you may be mature and complete, not lacking anything.”
3. Wrong timing:
John 11:21 “Lord,” Martha said to Jesus, “if you had been here, my brother would not have died”
2 Peter 3:9 “The Lord is not slow in keeping his promise, as some understand slowness. Instead he is patient with you, not wanting anyone to perish, but everyone to come to repentance.”
4. Wrong living
Proverbs 19:3 “A man's own folly ruins his life, yet his heart rages against the LORD.”
What do I do if I find myself MAD at God?
- Search it inwardly
I Peter 5:7 NKJV “Cast all your cares on the Lord for He cares for you.”
3. Surrender it fully
Psalm 73:2 NCV “I had almost stopped believing; I had almost lost my faith
3 because I was jealous of proud people. I saw wicked people doing well.
4 They are not suffering; they are healthy and strong.
5 They don’t have troubles like the rest of us; they don’t have problems like other people.”
verse 16 “I tried to understand all this, but it was too hard for me to see
17 until I went to the Temple of God. Then I understood what will happen to them.
18 You have put them in danger; you cause them to be destroyed.
19 They are destroyed in a moment; they are swept away by terrors.
20 It will be like waking from a dream. Lord, when you rise up, they will disappear.”
The Expectation Gap: When what I expect doesn't match up with what I experience, the GAP is filled with frustration.
Luke 10:38 “As Jesus and the disciples continued on their way to Jerusalem, they came to a certain village where a woman named Martha welcomed him into her home. 39 Her sister, Mary, sat at the Lord’s feet, listening to what he taught. 40 But Martha was distracted by the big dinner she was preparing. She came to Jesus and said, “Lord, doesn’t it seem unfair to you that my sister just sits here while I do all the work? Tell her to come and help me.” 41 But the Lord said to her, “My dear Martha, you are worried and upset over all these details! 42 There is only one thing worth being concerned about. Mary has discovered it, and it will not be taken away from her.”
4 things that help us to close the expectation gap.
- Speak up.
I cannot expect what I do not express.
2. Lighten up.
I should never expect others to express themselves in the same way as me.
3. Check up.
Luke 10:41 “My dear Martha, you are worried and upset over all these details! 42 There is only one thing worth being concerned about. Mary has discovered it, and it will not be taken away from her.”
Galatians 6:4-5 MSG "Make a careful exploration of who you are and the work you have been given, and then sink yourself into that. Don’t be impressed with yourself. Don’t compare yourself with others. Each of you must take responsibility for doing the creative best you can with your own life."
4. Look up.
Proverbs 18:24 (ESV) “A man of many companions may come to ruin, but there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother.”
Matthew 24:10-13 (NKJV) “And then many will be offended, will betray one another, and will hate one another. Then many false prophets will rise up and deceive many. And because lawlessness will abound, the love of many will grow cold. But he who endures to the end shall be saved.
The enemies agenda is destruction
The enemies strategy is division
The enemies tactic is offense
3 people in the Bible who were MAD at their brother.
1. The Prodigal son and the Older brother: Pride
Luke 15:28 “The older brother became angry and refused to go in. So his father went out and pleaded with him. 29 But he answered his father, ‘Look! All these years I’ve been slaving for you and never disobeyed your orders. Yet you never gave me even a young goat so I could celebrate with my friends. 30 But when this son of yours who has squandered your property with prostitutes comes home, you kill the fattened calf for him!’
Proverbs 13:10 “pride leads to arguments.”
2. Cain and Able: Jealousy
JEALOUSY = resenting God’s goodness in other’s lives while ignoring God’s goodness in my own life.
James 3:15-16 “For jealousy and selfishness are not God’s kind of wisdom. Such things are earthly, unspiritual, and demonic. 16 For wherever there is jealousy and selfish ambition, there you will find disorder and evil of every kind.”
3. Jacob and Esau: Hurt
Psalms 55:12-13 “If an enemy were insulting me, I could endure it; if a foe were rising against me, I could hide. 13 But it is you, a man like myself, my companion, my close friend…”
3 Choices to make if you are MAD at your brother.
1. Choose celebration over competition
Romans 12:15 “Rejoice with those who rejoice and mourn with those who mourn”
I Samuel 23:17 Jonathan said.. “Don’t be afraid my father Saul will not lay a hand on you. You will be king over Israel, and I will be second to you”
You can’t rejoice with someone and be jealous of someone at the same time.
2. Choose trust over suspicion:
The more times we are hurt the more we tend to see people as potential for pain.
I Corinthains 13:7 ISV “love… bears up under everything; believes the best in all; there is no limit to her hope, and never will she fall.
3. Choose God’s faithfulness over fairness
I Corinthians 6:6-8 MSG “I say this as bluntly as I can to wake you up to the stupidity of what you’re doing. Is it possible that there isn’t one levelheaded person among you who can make fair decisions when disagreements and disputes come up? I don’t believe it. And here you are taking each other to court before people who don’t even believe in God! How can they render justice if they don’t believe in the God of justice? 7-8 These court cases are an ugly blot on your community. Wouldn’t it be far better to just take it, to let yourselves be wronged and forget it? All you’re doing is providing fuel for more wrong, more injustice, bringing more hurt to the people of your own spiritual family.”
MAD at the World
Matthew 24:10-13 (NKJV) “And then many will be offended, will betray one another, and will hate one another. Then many false prophets will rise up and deceive many. And because lawlessness will abound, the love of many will grow cold. But he who endures to the end shall be saved.”
- How do I know if I’ve gone MAD?
- Overly critical
Matthew 7:3-4 “Why do you look at the speck of sawdust in your brother’s eye and pay no attention to the plank in your own eye? 4 How can you say to your brother, ‘Let me take the speck out of your eye,’ when all the time there is a plank in your own eye?”
B. Constantly placing blame
C. Victim Mentality
D. Write off entire groups of people
2. What causes us to be MAD at the world?
Matthew 24:10 “And then many will be offended, will betray one another, and will hate one another”
B. Unmet expectations
3. How do we stop the MADness?
One word that changes everything…
Philippians 2:6 “Christ Jesus: Who, being in very nature God, did not consider equality with God something to be used to his own advantage; rather, he made himself nothing by taking the very nature of a servant, being made in human likeness.”
Matthew 10:39 “Whoever finds their life will lose it, and whoever loses their life for my sake will find it.”
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