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Restored Relationships

Restored Relationships
Robert Miller

  • Past performance does not guaranty future results

2 Corinthians 5:16-19 NLT 16 So we have stopped evaluating others from a human point of view. At one time we thought of Christ merely from a human point of view. How differently we know him now! 17 This means that anyone who belongs to Christ has become a new person. The old life is gone; a new life has begun! 18 And all of this is a gift from God, who brought us back to himself through Christ. And God has given us this task of reconciling people to him. 19 For God was in Christ, reconciling the world to himself, no longer counting people’s sins against them. And he gave us this wonderful message of reconciliation.

  • God sees you somewhere in the future, and you look a lot better than you do right now

Psalm 139:13-17 NLT
13 You made all the delicate, inner parts of my body     and knit me together in my mother’s womb. 14 Thank you for making me so wonderfully complex!     Your workmanship is marvelous—how well I know it. 15 You watched me as I was being formed in utter seclusion,     as I was woven together in the dark of the womb. 16 You saw me before I was born.     Every day of my life was recorded in your book. Every moment was laid out     before a single day had passed. 17 How precious are your thoughts about me, O God.     They cannot be numbered!

  • There’s a purpose to your story

John 13:34-35 NIV
34 “A new command I give you: Love one another. As I have loved you, so you must love one another. 35 By this everyone will know that you are my disciples, if you love one another.”

Intentional Living

Intentional Living
Pastor Joey Alcala



“The ‘occasionally remarkable’ moments shouldn’t be left to chance! They should be planned for, invested in.“ — Dan & Chip Heath
Matthew 25:14-30 (NIV) ““Again, it will be like a man going on a journey, who called his servants and entrusted his wealth to them. To one he gave five bags of gold, to another two bags, and to another one bag, each according to his ability. Then he went on his journey. The man who had received five bags of gold went at once and put his money to work and gained five bags more. So also, the one with two bags of gold gained two more. But the man who had received one bag went off, dug a hole in the ground and hid his master’s money. “After a long time the master of those servants returned and settled accounts with them. The man who had received five bags of gold brought the other five. ‘Master,’ he said, ‘you entrusted me with five bags of gold. See, I have gained five more.’ “His master replied, ‘Well done, good and faithful servant! You have been faithful with a few things; I will put you in charge of many things. Come and share your master’s happiness!’ “The man with two bags of gold also came. ‘Master,’ he said, ‘you entrusted me with two bags of gold; see, I have gained two more.’ “His master replied, ‘Well done, good and faithful servant! You have been faithful with a few things; I will put you in charge of many things. Come and share your master’s happiness!’ “Then the man who had received one bag of gold came. ‘Master,’ he said, ‘I knew that you are a hard man, harvesting where you have not sown and gathering where you have not scattered seed. So I was afraid and went out and hid your gold in the ground. See, here is what belongs to you.’

Manager: a person who conducts business or household affairs

Stewardship: the conducting, supervising, or managing of something especially: the careful and responsible management of something entrusted to one's care

It’s all His and we get to manage.

Psalm 24:1 (ESV) “The earth is the Lord's and the fullness thereof, the world and those who dwell therein.”

I Corinthians 6:19-20 (ESV)
"Do you not know that your bodies are temples of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not your own; you were bought at a price. Therefore honor God with your bodies.”

John 5:19 (NIV)
Jesus gave them this answer: "Very truly I tell you, the Son can do nothing by himself; he can do only what he sees his Father doing, because whatever the Father does the Son also does.



Alcala Affirmations

  1. I know People Matter to God, so they will matter to me
  2. I have favor with God and Man
  3. I have been given great wisdom & find success in everything I touch
  4. I judged myself by my actions not my intentions
  5. I finish what I start
  6. I am not afraid of failure only afraid of not trying
  7. I have unwavering faith & give extraordinary effort
  8. I build the kingdom & am blessed to be a blessing
  9. I speak the truth in love
  10. I make decisions that please God
  11. I continue to grow & do not quit
  12. I am a fearless leader
  13. I am more than a conqueror
  14. I am above and not below
  15. I am the head not the tail
  16. I am fearfully and wonderfully made
  17. I am a His beloved and I am a messenger of His Grace
  18. I am Called, I am Chosen & I am Loved
  19. I am an Alcala


It’s all His and we get to manage.




Teachable moments

Family Moments
Part 2
Teachable moments


Three of the most teachable moments in a family:

1. WHEN THEY MESS UP

How do we turn mess up moments into teachable moments?

a. Sometimes we let them learn

Proverbs 13:24 TPT “If you withhold correction and punishment from your children,
you demonstrate a lack of true love. So prove your love and be prompt to punish them.”

Discipline should always be about discipleship.

b. Sometimes we let them off

c. Every time we show them love


2. WHEN WE MESS UP

How do we turn our mess up moments into teachable moments?

a. Own it

Proverbs 22:4 NLT “True humility and fear of the LORD lead to riches, honor, and long life.”

b. Learn from it

c. Fix it

e. Teach it

3. WHEN OTHERS MESS UP

How do we turn these painful moments into teachable moments?

a. Teach them to expect it

b. Teach them to face it

c. Teach them to release it


Repeatable Moments

Family Moments
Part 1
Repeatable Moments

Deuteronomy 6:4-9 NIV “Hear O Israel, the Lord our God, the Lord is One. Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your strength. These commands that I give you today are to be upon your heart, impress them on your children, talk about them when you sit at home and when you walk along the road and when you lie down and when you get up. Tie them as symbols on your hands and bind them on your foreheads. Write them on the doorframes of your houses and on your gates”

Four repeatable moments:

1. Show the way

Deuteronomy 6:4 NIV
Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your strength. These commands that I give you today are to be upon your heart, impress them on your children…”

“You can teach what you know, but you will reproduce who you are.”

2. Say the words

Deuteronomy 6:7 NIV
Talk about them when you sit at home”

Mark 10:16 NIV “and he took the children in his arms and put his hands on them and BLESSED THEM.”

Proverbs 18:21 NIV “The tongue has the power of life and death.”

Matthew 3:17 NIV “This is my son whom I love and I am well pleased with him”

3. Spend the time

Deuteronomy 6:6-7 NIV “These commands that I give you today are to be upon your heart, impress them on your children, talk about them when you sit at home and when you walk along the road and when you lie down and when you get up.”

4. Set the boundaries

Deuteronomy 6:8-9 NIV “Tie them as symbols on your hands and bind them on your foreheads. Write them on the doorframes of your houses and on your gates”

Proverbs 22:6 NIV “train up a child in the way they should go and in the end they will not depart from it.”

We Go All In

We Go ALL IN

Genesis 12:1-3 "God had told Abram, “Leave your own country behind you, and your own people, and go to the land I will guide you to. 2 If you do, I will cause you to become the father of a great nation; I will bless you and make your name famous, and you will be a blessing to many others. 3 I will bless those who bless you and curse those who curse you; and the entire world will be blessed because of you.”

Romans 12:1-8 NCV “So brothers and sisters, since God has shown us great mercy, I beg you to offer your lives as a living sacrifice to him. Your offering must be only for God and pleasing to him, which is the spiritual way for you to worship. 2 Do not be shaped by this world; instead be changed within by a new way of thinking. Then you will be able to decide what God wants for you; you will know what is good and pleasing to him and what is perfect.

4 things about going All In:

1. All in means
REMEMBERING something

Romans 12:1
“since God has shown us great mercy”

Luke 7:47 she has been forgiven much so she has loved much

2. All in means
COMMITTING to something

Romans 12:2
“Do not be shaped by this world; instead be changed within by a new way of thinking.”

3. All in means
SERVING somewhere

Romans 12:4-8
“For just as each of us has one body with many members, and these members do not all have the same function, 5 so in Christ we, though many, form one body, and each member belongs to all the others. 6 We have different gifts, according to the grace given to each of us. If your gift is prophesying, then prophesy in accordance with your faith; 7 if it is serving, then serve; if it is teaching, then teach; 8 if it is to encourage, then give encouragement; if it is giving, then give generously; if it is to lead, do it diligently; if it is to show mercy, do it cheerfully.

4. All in means GIVING everything.

Romans 12:1 “So brothers and sisters, since God has shown us great mercy, I beg you to offer your lives as a living sacrifice to him.”

Disipleship Moments

Discipleship Moments


What is discipleship?

Greek meaning- to learn

Definition- “The process of training people incrementally in some discipline or way of life.”


Principles of Discipleship

1. Deny Yourself

Matthew 16:24 ESV “Then Jesus told his disciples, “If anyone would come after me, let him deny himself and take up his cross and follow me.”

Luke 14:25-33 ESV “25 Now great crowds accompanied him, and he turned and said to them, 26 “If anyone comes to me and does not hate his own father and mother and wife and children and brothers and sisters, yes, and even his own life, he cannot be my disciple. 27 Whoever does not bear his own cross and come after me cannot be my disciple. 28 For which of you, desiring to build a tower, does not first sit down and count the cost, whether he has enough to complete it? 29 Otherwise, when he has laid a foundation and is not able to finish, all who see it begin to mock him, 30 saying, ‘This man began to build and was not able to finish.’ 31 Or what king, going out to encounter another king in war, will not sit down first and deliberate whether he is able with ten thousand to meet him who comes against him with twenty thousand? 32 And if not, while the other is yet a great way off, he sends a delegation and asks for terms of peace. 33 So therefore, any one of you who does not renounce all that he has cannot be my disciple.”


2. Devotion

John 8:31-32 “If you abide in my word, you are truly my disciples, 32 and you will know the truth, and the truth will set you free.”

John 10:3-5 ESV The sheep hear his voice, and he calls his own sheep by name and leads them out. 4 When he has brought out all his own, he goes before them, and the sheep follow him, for they know his voice. 5 A stranger they will not follow, but they will flee from him, for they do not know the voice of strangers.”

3. Discipline

Live off of experience not exposure.

Live off of first hand revelation not second.

Energy management, knowing what drains you or sustains you.


Matthew 11:28-30 ESV “Come to me, all who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. 29 Take my yoke upon you, and learn from me, for I am gentle and lowly in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. 30 For my yoke is easy, and my burden is light.”


Accountability- accounting for someone’s ability not covering for someone’s disabilities

Proverbs 27:17 ESV “Iron sharpens iron, and one man sharpens another.”

James 5:16 ESV “Therefore, confess your sins to one another and pray for one another, that you may be healed. The prayer of a righteous person has great power as it is working.”