How to Burn Out
Numbers 20:1-12 “In the first month the whole Israelite community arrived at the Desert of Zin, and they stayed at Kadesh. There Miriam died and was buried. 2 Now there was no water for the community, and the people gathered in opposition to Moses and Aaron. 3 They quarreled with Moses and said, “If only we had died when our brothers fell dead before the Lord! 4 Why did you bring the Lord’s community into this wilderness, that we and our livestock should die here? 5 Why did you bring us up out of Egypt to this terrible place? It has no grain or figs, grapevines or pomegranates. And there is no water to drink!” 6 Moses and Aaron went from the assembly to the entrance to the tent of meeting and fell facedown, and the glory of the Lord appeared to them. 7 The Lord said to Moses, 8 “Take the staff, and you and your brother Aaron gather the assembly together. Speak to that rock before their eyes and it will pour out its water. You will bring water out of the rock for the community so they and their livestock can drink.” 9 So Moses took the staff from the Lord’s presence, just as he commanded him. 10 He and Aaron gathered the assembly together in front of the rock and Moses said to them, “Listen, you rebels, must we bring you water out of this rock?” 11 Then Moses raised his arm and struck the rock twice with his staff. Water gushed out, and the community and their livestock drank. 12 But the Lord said to Moses and Aaron, “Because you did not trust in me enough to honor me as holy in the sight of the Israelites, you will not bring this community into the land I give them.”
How to burn out…
1. Shrug off the losses
Numbers 20:1 “In the first month the whole Israelite community arrived at the Desert of Zin, and they stayed at Kadesh. There Miriam died and was buried.”
Ecclesiastes 3:1-4 “There is a time for everything,
and a season for every activity under the heavens:
a time to be born and a time to die,
a time to plant and a time to uproot,
a time to kill and a time to heal,
a time to tear down and a time to build,
a time to weep and a time to laugh,
2. Stay focused on the opinions of others
verse 2-4 “Now there was no water for the community, and the people gathered in opposition to Moses and Aaron. 3 They quarreled with Moses and said, “If only we had died when our brothers fell dead before the Lord! 4 Why did you bring the Lord’s community into this wilderness, that we and our livestock should die here?”
Galatians 1:10 “Am I now trying to win the approval of human beings, or of God? Or am I trying to please people? If I were still trying to please people, I would not be a servant of Christ.”
3. See yourself as irreplaceable
verse 10 “He and Aaron gathered the assembly together in front of the rock and Moses said to them, “Listen, you rebels, must we bring you water out of this rock?”
Proverbs 16:18 “Pride goes before destruction, a haughty spirit before a fall.”
4. Stop trying new things:
Four keys to avoiding burn out…
1. Walk with GOD
Exodus 3:11-12 “But Moses said to God, “Who am I that I should go to Pharaoh and bring the Israelites out of Egypt?” 12 And God said, “I will be with you.”
Matthew 11:28-30 “Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. 29 Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. 30 For my yoke is easy and my burden is light.”
2. Operate in your GIFTS
3. GET out of what’s comfortable
4. Don’t GO alone
How to Be Broke
Proverbs 24:30-34 “I went past the field of a sluggard,
past the vineyard of someone who has no sense;
31 thorns had come up everywhere,
the ground was covered with weeds,
and the stone wall was in ruins.
32 I applied my heart to what I observed
and learned A LESSON from what I saw:
33 A little sleep, a little slumber,
a little folding of the hands to rest—
34 and poverty will come on you like a thief
and scarcity like an armed man.”
Three habits of broke people:
1. We LOVE our STUFF.
Proverbs 27:20 (NCV) “People will never stop dying and being destroyed, and they will never stop wanting more than they have.”
Ecclesiastes 5:10 NLT “Those who love money will never have enough. How meaningless to think that wealth brings true happiness!”
I Timothy 6:10 “For the love of money is a root of all kinds of evil. Some people, eager for money, have wandered from the faith and pierced themselves with MANY GRIEFS.”
2. We LACK DISCIPLINE
verse 33 “A little sleep a little slumber a little folding of the hands to rest and poverty will come on you like a thief…”
Proverbs 21:20 NLT “The wise have wealth and luxury, but fools spend whatever they get.”
Proverbs 13:18 “whoever disregards discipline comes to poverty and shame…”
3. We LIVE for the NOW
Proverbs 6:6 “Go to the ant, you sluggard; consider its ways and be wise! 7 It has no commander, no overseer or ruler, 8 yet it stores its provisions in summer and gathers its food at harvest.”
Matthew 6:19 “Do not store up for yourselves treasures on earth, where moths and rust destroy, and where thieves break in and steal. 20 But store up for yourselves treasures in heaven, where moths and rust do not destroy, and where thieves do not break in and steal. 21 For where your treasure is, there your heart will be also.”
How do I get a right heart about money?
1. DEVOTE your heart to GOD.
Matthew 6:24 “No one can serve two masters. Either you will hate the one and love the other, or you will be devoted to the one and despise the other. You cannot serve both God and money. You cannot love both God and money.”
Proverbs 3:9 “Honor the Lord with your wealth with the first fruits of your crops.”
Malachi 3:10 “Bring the whole tithe into the storehouse”
Exodus 23:19 “Bring the best of the first fruits of your soil to the house of the Lord your God.”
Leviticus 27:30 “A tithe of everything…belongs to the Lord; it is holy to the Lord.”
Deuteronomy 14:23 "The purpose of tithing is to teach you to always put God first in your lives."
2. Develop a heart of GENEROSITY
Psalm 37:21 “The wicked borrow and never repay, but the godly are generous givers.”
Proverbs 21:26 “the Godly love to give.”
How to be Discontent
Matthew 20:1-16 “For the kingdom of heaven is like a landowner who went out early in the morning to hire workers for his vineyard. 2 He agreed to pay them a denarius[a] for the day and sent them into his vineyard. 3 “About nine in the morning he went out and saw others standing in the marketplace doing nothing. 4 He told them, ‘You also go and work in my vineyard, and I will pay you whatever is right.’ 5 So they went. “He went out again about noon and about three in the afternoon and did the same thing. 6 About five in the afternoon he went out and found still others standing around. He asked them, ‘Why have you been standing here all day long doing nothing?’ 7 “‘Because no one has hired us,’ they answered. “He said to them, ‘You also go and work in my vineyard.’ 8 “When evening came, the owner of the vineyard said to his foreman, ‘Call the workers and pay them their wages, beginning with the last ones hired and going on to the first.’ 9 “The workers who were hired about five in the afternoon came and each received a denarius. 10 So when those came who were hired first, they expected to receive more. But each one of them also received a denarius. 11 When they received it, they began to grumble against the landowner. 12 ‘These who were hired last worked only one hour,’ they said, ‘and you have made them equal to us who have borne the burden of the work and the heat of the day.’ 13 “But he answered one of them, ‘I am not being unfair to you, friend. Didn’t you agree to work for a denarius? 14 Take your pay and go. I want to give the one who was hired last the same as I gave you. 15 Don’t I have the right to do what I want with my own money? Or are you envious because I am generous?’ 16 “So the last will be first, and the first will be last.”
Three things about how to become discontent:
verse 10 “So when those came who were hired first, they expected to receive more. But each one of them also received a denarius.”
verse 11 “when they received it they began to grumble”
verse 12 “These who were hired last worked only one hour,’ they said, ‘and you have made them equal to us who have borne the burden of the work and the heat of the day.”
How do we get out of this discontentment mindset? Three keys…
1. REJOICE in God’s goodness to others
verse 15 “Don’t I have the right to do what I want with my own money? Or are you envious because I am generous?”
Romans 12:15 “Rejoice with those who rejoice and mourn with those who mourn”
2. RECOGNIZE God’s goodness in you
verse 13 “But he answered one of them, ‘I am not being unfair to you, friend. Didn’t you agree to work for a denarius? 14 Take your pay and go.”
Ecclesiastes 6:9 “Better what the eye sees than a roving of the appetite. This, too, is meaningless. It is a chasing after the wind.”
I Thessalonians 5:16-18 “ Rejoice always, pray continually, give thanks in all circumstances; for this is God’s will for you in Christ Jesus.
3. REMEMBER you are not that good
Philippians 4:12-13 “I know what it is to be in need, and I know what it is to have plenty. I have learned the secret of being content in any and every situation, whether well fed or hungry, whether living in plenty or in want. 13 I can do all this through him who gives me strength.”
Dedication for Lifegate, Burleson--May 19, 2019
Exodus 31:1-3 NIV
Then the Lord said to Moses, 2 "See, I have chosen Bezalel son of Uri, the son of Hur, of the tribe of Judah, 3 and I have filled him with the Spirit of God, with skill, ability and knowledge in all kinds of crafts
v. 3—I have filled him with the Spirit of God…
Zechariah 4:6 NIV
So he said to me, "This is the word of the Lord to Zerubbabel: 'Not by might nor by power, but by my Spirit,' says the Lord Almighty.
v. 3--… with skill, ability and knowledge in all kinds of crafts
Exodus 35:34 NIV
…the ability to teach others.
2 Timothy 2:15 NLT
Work hard so you can present yourself to God and receive his approval. Be a good worker, one who does not need to be ashamed and who correctly explains the word of truth.
Exodus 36:6-7 NIV
6 Then Moses gave an order and they sent this word throughout the camp: "No man or woman is to make anything else as an offering for the sanctuary." And so the people were restrained from bringing more, 7 because what they already had was more than enough to do all the work.
FAMILY/ PARENTING Struggles
John 16:33 “I have told you all this so that you may have peace in me. Here on earth you will have many trials and sorrows. But take heart, because I have overcome the world.”
Three ways that might have gotten you on the struggle bus:
Exodus 2:3 “You shall not have other Gods before me.”
Matthew 22:37 ‘Jesus replied, “You must love the LORD your God with all your heart, all your soul, and all your mind.’
2. FOCUS or ATTENTION
2 Corinthians 9:6 “Now this I say, he who sows sparingly will also reap sparingly, and he who sows bountifully will also reap bountifully."
Galatians 6:4-7 “Pay careful attention to your own work, for then you will get the satisfaction of a job well done, and you won’t need to compare yourself to anyone else. 5 For we are each responsible for our own conduct. 6 Those who are taught the word of God should provide for their teachers, sharing all good things with them.
7 Don’t be misled—you cannot mock the justice of God. You will always harvest what you plant. 8 Those who live only to satisfy their own sinful nature will harvest decay and death from that sinful nature. But those who live to please the Spirit will harvest everlasting life from the Spirit. 9 So let’s not get tired of doing what is good. At just the right time we will reap a harvest of blessing if we don’t give up.”
Ecclesiastes 3:1-2 “For everything there is a season,
a time for every activity under heaven.
2 A time to be born and a time to die.
A time to plant and a time to harvest.”
How do we get off the Struggle Bus:
A. Be intentional with your time
Psalms 126:2-3 “We were filled with laughter,
and we sang for joy.
And the other nations said,
“What amazing things the Lord has done for them.”
3 Yes, the Lord has done amazing things for us!
Matthew 25:40 “And the King will say, ‘I tell you the truth, when you did it to one of the least of these my brothers and sisters, you were doing it to me!’
B. Be intentional with your words
Philippians 2:2 “Then make me truly happy by agreeing wholeheartedly with each other, loving one another, and working together with one mind and purpose.”
Philippians 2:3 “Don’t be selfish; don’t try to impress others. Be humble, thinking of others as better than yourselves.”
Three reasons marriages struggle:
1. Wrong Expectations
2. Poor Communication
a. Family expectations…
b. Calendar expectations…
c. Money expectations…
d. Children expectations…
3. Divided Vision
Amos 3:3 NLT “Can two people walk together
without agreeing on the direction?
Ephesians 5:21-27 “Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ.
22 For wives, this means submit to your husbands as to the Lord. 23 For a husband is the head of his wife as Christ is the head of the church. He is the Savior of his body, the church. 24 As the church submits to Christ, so you wives should submit to your husbands in everything.
25 For husbands, this means love your wives, just as Christ loved the church. He gave up his life for her 26 to make her holy and clean, washed by the cleansing of God’s word.”
Three things to get you off of the marriage struggle bus:
Colossians 1:19 MSG “all the broken and dislocated pieces of the universe—people and things, animals and atoms—get properly fixed and fit together in vibrant harmonies, all because of his (CHRISTS) death, his blood that poured down from the cross.
Four habits you can institute for a great marriage:
A. Communicate daily
B. Attend church weekly
C. Date at least monthly
Two Elements of a good date:
a. Face to face
b. Side by side
D. Get away yearly
knock knock (4)
book of Prayers (3)
Awkward Conversation (3)
Struggle Bus (5)
Cautionary Tales (3)